The Difference between envy and jealousy

Thursday, April 28, 2011
Assalaamu 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

In the name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Most Merciful



A question that was asked to Ash Shaykh Saalih al Fouzaan may Allah preserve him:

Question: May Allah be good to you, what is the ruling on envy if it arises from a person? And what is the difference between it and jealousy?

Answer: Envy is a despicable characteristic, a blameworthy characteristic and our messenger sallahu 'alayhi wasallam said: and do not envy one another*.

If a person finds within himself something for his brother, envy is to wish for the favor to be removed, this is the accurate meaning of it, to wish for the favor to be removed from the one being envied.

So if a person finds something from that within himself then let him seek refuge with Allah from it and he should supplicate for blessings for his brother/sister and ask Allah from his bounty the likes of what he has given your brother to give it to you as Allah says:

(And do not wish for the things in which Allah has made some of you excel others. For men there is a reward for what they have earned (and likewise) for women there is a reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of his bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All Knower of everything.  ( Qur'an 4:32)

So envy is a wicked attribute and the envier he doesn't harm anyone except himself, the envier he only harms himself and envy it only destroys the one who possesses it. It is upon the one who finds this characteristic within his/herself to seek refuge with Allah from the evil of envy, to supplicate for his brothers for blessings and to ask Allah from his bounty for himself.

As for jealousy, then it doesn't have any evny in it at all. Jealousy is for a person to wish to have the like, to have the same as the one who has this favor whether it be from worship or knowledge or an abundance of wealth, so he asks Allah or he wishes to be like this individual who Allah has favored.

This is something admirable and is not blameworthy. That which is blameworthy is to wish for the favor to be stripped away from your brother/sister, as for you hoping to be given the like of what your brother has been given and you ask Allah for that then this is something honorable and this is jealousy. 

The messenger sallahu 'alayhi wasallam said: 

There is no envy except in two instances meaning no jealousy except in two instances, a man Allah has given knowledge, Allah has given him the quran so he stands with it at night and in the daytime and in another wording Allah has given him wisdom so he teaches it and judges between the people by it. And a man Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the way of Allah**.

So whoever wishes to be like these then this is jealousy and it is a honorable thing and it isn't from envy, na'am.

Footnote:# *Muslim(6214).**Bukhari(152) and Muslim(816).

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Reference:
Abdurrahman.org
Translated by: Abu Fouzaan Qaasim



SABAR

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Kesabaran merupakan "dhiya' " (cahaya yang amat terang). (HR Muslim)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Orang yang paling sabar diantara kamu ialah orang yang memaafkan kesalahan orang lain padahal dia berkuasa untuk membalasnya." (HR Baihaqi)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Iman terbagi dua, separuh dalam sabar dan separuh dalam syukur". (HR Al-Baihaqi)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda,"Sungguh beruntung orang yang beriman, karena segala perkara adalah kebajikan. Jika dia mendapatkan kenikmatan, dia bersyukur (dia mendapat pahala kebajikan) dan jika dia ditimpa musibah, dia sabar (dia mendapat pahala kebajikan juga)." (HR. Muslim)

Saiyidina Ali Abu Talib k.a.w pernah bermadah, maksudnya: Jika engkau bersabar, takdir itu berlaku juga ke atas diri mu, tetapi engkau dikurniakan ganjaran pahala. Jika engkau tidak sabar pun, takdir tetap berlaku juga ke atas dirimu dan engkau berdosa.

Dari Ummu Al-Ala', dia berkata : "Rasulullah Shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam menjengukku tatkala aku sedang sakit, lalu baginda berkata. 'Gembirakanlah wahai Ummu Al-Ala'. Sesungguhnya sakitnya orang Muslim itu membuatkan Allah mengampunkan dosa-dosanya, sebagaimana api yang menghilangkan kotoran pada emas dan perak". (HR Abu Daud)

Dari Sa'id bin Abi Waqqash Radhiyallahu anhu, dia berkata. 'Aku pernah bertanya : Wahai Rasulullah, siapakah orang yang paling keras cobaannya ? Beliau menjawab: Para nabi, kemudian orang pilihan dan orang pilihan lagi. Maka seseorang akan diuji menurut agamanya. Apabila agamanya merupakan (agama) yang kuat, maka cobaannya juga berat. Dan, apabila di dalam agamanya ada kelemahan, maka dia akan diuji menurut agamanya. Tidaklah cobaan menyusahkan seorang hamba sehingga ia meninggalkannya berjalan di atas bumi dan tidak ada satu kesalahan pun pada dirinya". (HR Ibnu Majah)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Cubaan tetap akan menimpa atas diri orang mukmin dan mukminah, anak dan juga hartanya, sehingga dia bersua Allah dan pada dirinya tidak ada lagi satu kesalahan pun". (HR Al-Hakim)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Tidaklah seorang muslim menderita sakit karena suatu penyakit dan juga lainnya, melainkan Allah menggugurkan kesalahan-kesalahannya dengan penyakit itu, sebagaimana pohon yang menggugurkan daun-daunnya". (HR Bukhari, Muslim)

Sabda Rasulullah SAW yang bermaksud : “Sesungguhnya orang mukmin akan menerima tekanan hidup kerana tidak ada satu bencana sama ada kerana terkena duri atau yang lebih besar, tidak juga ketakutan melainkan Allah akan mengangkat darjatnya satu darjat dan menghapuskan satu kesalahan dengan kesabarannya menghadapi bencana dan kesusahan tersebut”. (Riwayat al-Hakim)

Dari Anas bin Malik, dia berkata. "Aku pernah mendengar Rasulullah Shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam berkata. "Artinya :
Sesungguhnya Allah berfirman. 'Apabila Aku menguji hamba-Ku (dengan kebutaan) pada kedua matanya lalu dia bersabar, maka Aku akan mengganti kedua matanya itu dengan syurga". (HR Bukhari)

Allah berfirman, "Dan bersabarlah kamu, karena sesungguhnya Allah itu bersama orang yang sabar." (Al Anfaal : 46 )

Allah SWT berfirman : "Dan Allah mencintai orang-orang yang sabar." ( Ali Imran : 146)

Rasulullah SAW pernah menggambarkan: "Sesiapa yang mensabar-sabarkan diri (berusaha untuk sabar), maka Allah akan menjadikannya orang yang sabar". (HR. Bukhari)

Exercise To Beat Depression and Anxiety

Saturday, April 23, 2011




Exercise is a very effective way to overcome depression and anxiety disorders. According to researchers who analyzed the results of numerous published studies, they found that a workout reduces stress and anger and boosts overall physical wellbeing.


They claim that physical exercise should be more widely prescribed as a treatment to tackle depressive or anxiety disorders.

Study Details

Researchers based their finding on an analysis of dozens of population-based studies, clinical studies and meta-analytic reviews related to exercise and mental health, including the authors' meta-analysis of exercise interventions for mental health and studies on reducing anxiety sensitivity with exercise. The researchers' review demonstrated the effectiveness of exercise programs in reducingdepression and anxiety.

"Exercise has been shown to have tremendous benefits for mental health," said one of the study authors from the University in Dallas.

"Individuals who exercise report fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression, and lower levels of stress and anger,"

"Exercise appears to affect, like an antidepressant, particular neurotransmitter systems in the brain, and it helps patients with depression re-establish positive behaviors. For patients with anxiety disorders, exercise reduces their fears of fear and related bodily sensations such as a racing heart and rapid breathing."

"Rather than emphasize the long-term health benefits of an exercise program - which can be difficult to sustain - we urge providers to focus with their patients on the immediate benefits," they said.
"After just 25 minutes, your mood improves, you are less stressed, you have moreenergy - and you'll be motivated to exercise again tomorrow. A bad mood is no longer a barrier to exercise; it is the very reason to exercise."

After patients had a health assessment, they were subjected to either 150 minutes a week of moderate-intensity activity or 75 minutes a week of vigorous-intensity activity.

"This isn't about working out five times a week for the next year. It's about exercising for 20 or 30 minutes and feeling better today."

The researchers presented their findings at the annual conference of the Anxiety Disorder Association of America.

Wahai Sahabat, Janganlah Bersedih!

Friday, April 22, 2011
Kepada semua sahabat-sahabat yang sedang diuji, yang telah diuji & yang belum diuji.. ingatlah, bahawa kita akan sentiasa diuji dan tanganilah segalanya dengan bijak. Usahlah bersedih tapi bangkitlah dengan seribu kekuatan dan berusahalah untuk menjadi yang lebih baik. Kesedihan akan melemahkan kita..Gagal hari ini tidak bermakna akan gagal selama-lamanya. Jangan berputus asa, teruskan berusaha..Yakin boleh !!!!


Janganlah bersedih, dunia ini hanyalah sementara. Pastikan setiap ujian membuatkan kita lebih dekat dengan Allah SWT. Bersabarlah kerana Allah sentiasa bersama-sama dengan orang-orang yang sabar.


01.Jangan Bersedih... Cinta Allah dan Rasulullah menjamin kebahagiaan.
02.Jangan Bersedih... Redha Dengan anugerah Allah membuat anda kaya di dunia.
03.Jangan Bersedih... Allah Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Penerima Taubat serta Rahmatnya yang Maha Luas.
04.Jangan Bersedih... Semata-mata disebabkan anda berbeza dengan orang lain kerana setiap kejadian Allah itu ada kelebihan tersendiri.
05.Jangan Bersedih... Bila disakiti, dicela, direndahkan atau dizalimi kerana setiap perkara yang berlaku adalah dugaan dari Yang Maha Esa.
06.Jangan Bersedih... Sesungguhnya setelah kesusahan akan ada kemudahan.
07.Jangan Bersedih... Kerana kesedihan anda akan membuat musuh anda gembira.
08.Jangan Bersedih... Atas perilaku manusia terhadapmu tetapi perhatikanlah perilaku mereka terhadap Allah.
09.Jangan Bersedih... Allah tidak akan mensia-siakan pengorbananmu dan setiap perkara yang baik mahupun buruk ada hikmahnya.



LIKE FIGHTING PIGEONS

Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh 
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


Once I was in a place where they had a lot of wild pigeons.
I asked the people if they could catch such pigeons and they replied"We can't, because they are very wild."

One day when I was in a gathering, I went to the window to get some fresh air and suddenly I saw two pigeons. I snatched at them and caught them both. I rushed back to the gathering and asked them, "What is in my hands?"

I had already hidden the pigeons behind my back. They kept guessing and giving wrong answers until I showed them the pigeons. They were amazed and they asked me how I caught two when catching one was impossible?

I answered: "They were fighting so hard that their beaks were buried in each other's skin. They were blind to me. All I had to do was grab both of them from their heads with a single hand."

I added; I wonder how blind we Muslims are these days, fighting on small differences while our enemy is having all the advantage to plot and plan against us as a whole.

WHY ARE WE SO DIVIDED?

The major reason for disunity is the wide range of beliefs prevalent amongst the Muslims. Despite us having the same Qur'an and the same Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), Muslims still have different beliefs. Why is this? If we all are referring back to the Qur'an and the Sunnah in every matter then why the differences. Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says: 

"(And) if you differ in anything amongst yourselves, refer it to Allah and His Messenger (salAllaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), if you believe in Allah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for final determination."
[Surah an-Nisaa 4:59]

We should open our eyes before it is too late.

Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has given us the means for the revival of this Ummah,
when He (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:

"Verily! Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves." 
 [Surah ar-Ra'd 13:11]

 "O, Allah...I seek refuge in You from poverty and disbelief; from sinfulness, disunity and hypocrisy; from notability and riyaa' (show off)..." 
 [Ahmad, Maalik, Bazaar, Haithami and ibn `Abd al-Barr authenticated it]

Allah knows best
Barakallahu feek.

Source : A program named {The Unity} hosted and presented by the beloved Sheikh Adnan Al'ar'oor.




THE QUR'AN IS A CURE

Thursday, April 21, 2011


Allah said that his Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) said,
And He feeds me and quenches my thirst and when I fall sick then He (Allah) cures me. [Soorah Shu'araa: 80].
Some scholars of Tafseer explain that there is a relation between what we eat and drink and falling sick since most people fall ill because of their diet. This could be a reason why Allah mentioned that Ibrahim (peace be upon him) recognized that Allah is the One who provides sustenance for us but that sickness is due to our own self and this is why sickness is mentioned after food and drink in this verse.

And We sent down of the Qur'an that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe. [Soorah Israa: 82].

healing to 'those who believe' showing the importance of rectifying our belief and actions such that we are true believers if we want the Qur'an to benefit us.
Ayub (peace be upon him) called upon his Lord,
And remember Ayub when he cried to his Lord: Verily, distress has seized me, and You are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy. [Soorah al-Anbiyaa: 83].
This was when he was inflicted with harm. And the reply came from his Lord:
We answered him and removed the distress that was on him... [Soorah al-Anbiyaa: 84].
O mankind! There has come to you a good advice from your Lord (Qur'an) enjoining all that is good and forbidding all that is evil, and a healing for that which is in your breasts, a guidance and a mercy for the believers. [Soorah Yunus: 57].
This shows us that the Qur'an has four benefits:
  • A good advice.
  • cure for our hearts from all diseases.
  • Guidance.
  • Mercy for mankind.
Say: it (the Qur'an) is a healing for those who believe, a guide and healing... [Soorah Fusilaat: 44].
The Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said, "There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: 'Allaahumma inni 'abduka ibn 'abdika ibn amatika naasiyati bi yadika, maada fi hukmika, 'adlun fiy qadaa'ika. As'aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw 'allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista'tharta bihi fi 'ilm il-ghayb 'indaka an taj'al al-Qur'aana rabee' qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa' huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allah, I am Your slave, son of Your male and female slaves, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur'an the harvest of myheart and the light of my chest, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),' but Allah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy."

He was asked: "O Messenger of Allah, should we learn this?" He said: "Of course; everyone who hears it should learn it."

And Allah said:
And if Allah tests you with affliction, there is none who can remove it but He. [Soorah Yunus: 107].
And also:
And He will give you victory over them and heal the breasts of a believing people. [Soorah Tawbah: 14].

When You sleep Read Ayatul Kursi

Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, "When you are about to sleep recite Ayatul Kursi till the end of the Verse for there will remain for you a protection from Allaah and no devil will draw to you until morning." [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree].


The Last Two Verses Of Soorah Al-Baqara

The Messenger (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) also said, "whoever recites the last two Verses of Soorah al-Baqara at night, those two Verses shall be sufficient for him." [Saheeh al-Bukhaarree and Saheeh Muslim].


The Last Three Chapters Of The Qur'an

When retiring to his bed every night, the Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) would hold his palms together, blow into them, recite the last three chapters of the Qur'an and then wipe his entire body as much as possible with his hands, beginning with the head and face and then all parts of the body. He would do this three times. [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree and Muslim].


Soorah al-Falaq and Soorah An-Naas

Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said, "When someone fell ill from the Prophet's family he did 'nafath' on them (to blow three times over them reciting the two chapters of seeking refuge -Soorah al-Falaq and Soorah An-Naas). When he himself fell ill, the illness which lead to his death& I would (similarly) do 'nafath' on him and would wipe him with his own hands for it was more blessed that my hands." [Saheeh Muslim].


We Turn To Allah In Distress

Allah said regarding Dhun Nun when called upon Allah to remove his distress and Allah replied,
We answered his call and delivered him from the distress. And thus We do deliver the believers. [Soorah anbiyaa: 87-88].


We Turn To Allah When People Try To Harm Us
And you will remember what I am telling you, and I leave my affair with Allah, verily Allah is ever watchful over His slaves. [Soorah Ghaafir: 44].
Then Allah said:
So Allah saved him from the evils that they plotted (against him), while an evil torment encompassed Fir'aun's people. [Soorah Ghaafir: 45].


Soorah Faatihah Is A cure

It is also a cure when read over the sick. They are cured by the permission of Allah because the Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said to Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) after he (Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri) read it over a person who had been bitten by a scorpion and was cured, "How did you come to know that it is a cure?" [Agreed upon, Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (2276) with the additional wording, "You have done the right thing."].

Hijab Stories: The Flower And Pearl


One day, a brilliantly beautiful and fragrant flower with attractive colors met a pearl that lives far in the bottom of the sea and has none of these characteristics. Both got acquainted with each other.
The flower said: "Our family is large; roses and daisies are members of the family. And there are many other species that are various and countless; each has a distinctive scent, appearance etc."
Suddenly, a tinge of distress appeared on the flower. "Nothing accounts for sorrow in your talk; so why are depressed?" The pearl asked.
"Human beings deal with us carelessly; they slight us. They don't grow us for our sake but to get pleasure from our fragrance and beautiful appearance. They throw us on the street or in the garbage can after we are dispossessed of the most valuable properties; brilliance and fragrance."
The flower sighed. And then the flower said to the pearl: "Speak to me about your life! How do you live? How do you feel it? You are buried in the bottom of the sea."
The pearl answered: "Although I have none of your distinctive colors and sweet scents, humans think I am precious. They do the impossible to procure me. They go on long journeys, dive deep in the seas searching for me. You might be astounded to know that the further I lay, the more beautiful and brilliant I become.
That's what upraises my value in their thought. I live in a thick shell isolated in the dark seas. However, I'm happy and proud to be in a safe zone far from wanton and mischievous hands and still the humans consider me highly valuable."

Do you know what the flower and the pearl symbolize?

Think, Think, Think...

You will find that: The flower is the unveiled woman (who shows her charms) and the pearl is the veiled woman (who conceals her beauties).

Women

Tuesday, April 19, 2011
A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?"
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.

"I don't understand," he said.
...His Mom just hugged him and said,
"And you never will."
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally he met an old man who would surely know the answer. And he asked him: "Old man, why do women cry so easily?" Old man sad: "When woman was created, she had to be made special....

- Allah created her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.
- She was given an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

- And a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
- Allah gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all
circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. She was given strength to carry her husband through his faults and she was fashioned from his rib to protect his heart.

- Allah gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his
wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.
- And lastly, Allah gave her a tear to shed. This is hers and only hers
exclusively to use whenever she needs it.
- She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers."

"You see my son," said old man, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because
that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."