Enemy Becomes a Friend

Tuesday, November 30, 2010
In the sixth year after the hijrah, the Prophet, peace be upon him, decided to expand the scope of his mission. He sent eight letters to rulers in the Arabian peninsula and surrounding areas inviting them to Islam. One of these rulers was Thumamah ibn Uthal.

Thumamah was one of the most powerful Arab rulers in pre-Qur'anic times. This is not surprising since he was a chieftain of the Banu Hanifah and one of the rulers of al- Yamamah whose word no one dared to challenge or disobey.

When Thumamah received the Prophet's letter, he was consumed by anger and rejected it. He refused to listen to the invitation of Truth and goodness. More than that, he felt a strong desire to go and kill the Prophet and bury his mission with him.

Thumamah waited and waited for a convenient time to carry out his design against the Prophet until eventually forgetfulness caused him to lose interest. One of his uncles, however, reminded him of his plan, praising what he intended to do.

In the pursuit of his evil design against the Prophet, Thumamah met and killed a group of the Prophet's companions. The Prophet thereupon declared him a wanted man who could lawfully be killed on sight.

Not long afterwards, Thumamah decided to perform umrah. He wanted to perform tawaf around the Ka'bah and sacrifice to the idols there (The people of Makkah, before becoming Muslims, placed hundreds of idols in the Holy Ka'bah. These idols were later destroyed by the Prophet). So he left al-Yamamah for Makkah. As he was passing near Madinah, an incident took place which he had not anticipated.

Groups of Muslims were patrolling the districts of Madinah and outlying areas on the lookout for any strangers or anyone intent on causing trouble. One of these groups came upon Thumamah and apprehended him but they did not know who he was. They took him to Madinah and tied him to one of the columns in the mosque. They waited for the Prophet himself to question the man and decide what should be done with him.

When the Prophet was about to enter the mosque, he saw Thumamah and asked his companions, "Do you know whom you have taken?"

"No, messenger of God," they replied.

"This is Thumamah ibn Uthal al-Hanafi," he said. "You have done well in capturing him."

The Prophet then returned home to his family and said, "Get what food you can and send it to Thumamah ibn Uthal." He then ordered his camel to be milked for him. All this was done before he met Thumamah or had spoken to him.

The Prophet then approached Thumamah hoping to encourage him to become a Muslim. "What do you have to say for yourself" he asked.

"If you want to kill in reprisal," Thumamah replied, "you can have someone of noble blood to kill. If, out of your bounty, you want to forgive, I shall be grateful. If you want money in compensation, I shall give you whatever amount you ask."

The Prophet then left him for two days, but still personally sent him food and drink and milk from his camel. The Prophet went back to him and asked, "What do you have to say for yourself" Thumamah repeated what he had said the day before. The Prophet then left and came back to him the following day. "What do you have to say for yourself?" he asked again and Thumamah repeated what he had said once more. Then the Prophet turned to his companions and said, "Set him free."

Thumamah left the mosque of the Prophet and rode until he came to a palm grove on the outskirts of Madinah near al-Baqi' (a place of luxuriant vegetation which later became a cemetery for many of the Prophet's companions). He watered his camel and washed himself well. Then he turned back and made his way to the Prophet's mosque. There, he stood before a congregation of Muslims and said:

"I bear witness that there is no god but Allah and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and His messenger." He then went to the Prophet, upon whom be peace, and said:

"O Muhammad, by God, there was never on this earth a face more detestable than yours. Now, yours is the dearest face of all to me."

"I have killed some of your men," he continued, "I am at your mercy. What will you have done to me?"

"There is now no blame on you, Thumamah," replied the Prophet. "Becoming a Muslim obliterates past actions and marks a new beginning."

Source: "Companions of The Prophet", Vol.1, By: Abdul Wahid Hamid.

Kawan

Khas untuk...yang bernama KAWAN


1) Kawan tu bukan macam main FUTSAL. Mula-mula kejar ...dah dapat sepak...

2) Kawan tu bukan macam main SKATE. Mula-mula gosok ...lepas tu pijak...

3) Kawan tu bukan macam main RAGBI. Mula-mula tangkap ... dah dapat tendang...

4) Kawan tu bukannya macam PAMPERS ... dah pakai, buang...

5) Kawan tu bukannya macam BARANG KEMAS. Waktu baru beli pakai. Dah sengkek gadai...

6) Kawan tu bukan macam PELANGI. Hari cerah takde ...hujan gerimis baru muncul...

7) Kawan tu bukan macam KERETA. Rosak sikit, jual ... ambik kereta baru...

8) Kawan tu bukan macam CHIPSMORE ... sekejap ade sekejap tak...

9) Kawan tu bukan macam BANK. Bila dah takde duit, pergi kat sana ambik...

Walau ape pun tanggapan orang tentang kawan ...bagi saya, kawan tu penting. Seorang kawan takkan biarkan kawan dia menangis, sedih, berduka dan sebagainya.

Kawan yang sejati adalah seorang kawan yang dapat diajak duduk dan berbincang tentang pelbagai perkara.

Yang penting, seorang kawan akan sentiasa menghadiahkan senyuman kpd kawan-kawannya.

~ FRENSHIP FOREVER frenship never ends ~

Owner of The Garden

Monday, November 29, 2010
The following story is mentioned in Surah Qalam, Chapter 68 of the Holy Quran.

Once there was a wealthy and pious man. He had a big garden full of green trees laden with fruits. After the fruits were picked, this rightful man used to distribute some fruits among the poor who would gather at the garden every season to take their share.

Allah liked this act of the man. By the grace of Allah the garden used to give rich harvest every season. Truly, one who spends for the sake of Allah gets the reward in the hereafter as well as in this life.

This man had many sons who were not so pious as him. When their father died, they discussed a plan and said to each other that their father was not a wise man. He did not know how it was difficult to earn livelihood. They did not like the habit of distributing some of the fruits among the poor. They felt as if all their efforts would go to vain if the poor had some share.

One of the sons had a concern. What will they tell the poor people when they gather to take their fruits next time? They thought over its implications, as they were worried about losing their prestige. However, they were not afraid of Allah's wrath. One of them suggested removing all the fruits in the night and thus clearing the garden before dawn so that nobody could come and ask for his share. Everyone agreed to this suggestion. Since they were not even afraid of Allah, they forgot to say 'Insha-Allah', which means if Allah Wills, "...they swore to pluck the fruits of the (garden) in the morning, without saying Insha-Allah ('if Allah Wills')" (Verses 17-18). If a Muslim does not say Insha-Allah before doing something Allah may not fulfill his wish. But those who have no faith in Allah fail to remember this and get stuck up in their act.

Allah is all Powerful. He knows no bounds in His Governance. All the brothers went to sleep with a view to getting up early in the morning and gather the ripe fruits. In the meantime, with the Will of Allah "...there passed by on the (garden) a visitation (fire) from your Lord at night and burnt it while they were asleep." (Verse 19)

In the early morning, all of them got up and hurried up and "...called out one to another as soon as the morning broke, Saying: 'Go to your tilth in the morning, if you would pluck the fruits.' So they departed, conversing in secret low tones (saying), No Miskin (poor man) shall enter upon you into it today." (Verses 21-24)

As they were proceeding towards the garden, they were quite unaware that Allah had willed otherwise. Because the garden had become "black by the morning, like a pitch dark night (in complete ruins)" (Verse 20). So when they reached the garden, they said this was not their garden, and that they had strayed away from the right path to the garden. But when they saw there was no other way around, they were wonder struck! Soon they realized the situation and yelled: "Verily, we have gone astray," "Nay! Indeed we are deprived of (the fruits)!" The best among them said: "Did I not say to you 'Why not glorify (Allah)'?" (Verses 26-28). He had been advising them earlier against this act, for he had said it is only Allah who would enhance their fruits if they continued to give away some of them in charity.

All of them felt regretful over their misdeed. They turned, to one another, in reproach and said: "Glory to our Lord! Verily we have been doing wrong. Alas for us! We have indeed transgressed!" All of them, then, sought Allah's pardon and said: "We hope that our Lord will give us in exchange a better (garden) than this. Truly, we turn to our Lord (wishing for good that He may forgive our sins, and reward us in the Hereafter)." (Verses 31-32)

It is very beloved to Allah that we share with the less fortunate whatever we have. While some of us only feel hungry during the month of Ramadan, there are many who are hungry everyday. Let us be more generous with our wealth and help all those who are in need. We will not lose anything by giving away some of our wealth, we will only gain.

The Shipwreck

Sunday, November 28, 2010

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him, and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming.


Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements and to store his few possessions. But then one day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky.

The worst had happened; everything was lost. He was stunned with grief and anger.

"God, how could you do this to me!" he cried.

Early the next day, however, he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the island. It had come to rescue him.

"How did you know I was here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers.

"We saw your smoke signal," they replied.

MORAL OF THE STORY:

It is easy to get discouraged when things are going badly. But we shouldn't lose heart, because God is at work in our lives, even in the midst of pain and suffering. Remember, next time your little hut is burning to the ground--it just may be a smoke signal that summons The Grace of God.

Two Days We Should Not Worry

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.


One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains.

Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday.

We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone forever.

The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with all its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and its poor performance; Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet to be born.

This leaves only one day, Today. Any person can fight the battle of just one day. It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down.

It is not the experience of Today that drives a person mad, it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.

Let us, therefore, Live but one day at a time.

10 Good Habits

Thursday, November 25, 2010

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked


Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.

This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way.

All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. There is God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it.

Get over this bad habit. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you.

Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave therest to God.

4. Do Not Be Jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not.

You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous?

No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his or her previous Karma, which has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either.

Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment 

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment.

As you do this, even the environment, which has beenunfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things.

We must learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, "God wills it so, so be it."

God's plan is beyond our comprehension. Believe in it and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew 

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that may create more worries?

You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself.

If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before.

You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily mediation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile.

Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind.

Your hobby or social work  may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret 

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating.

You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Always remember, God has His own plan, too for you. Value you time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing.

Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the Will of God. You do not have the power to alter the course of God's Will. Why cry over spilt milk

Jadilah Golongan yang Ikhlas Kerana Allah

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. yang bermaksud :Pada akhir zaman, umatku berpecah menjadi tiga golongan.
Pertama : Satu golongan menyembah Allah dengan ikhlas.
Kedua : Satu golongan menyembah Allah dengan riak, dan
Ketiga : Satu golongan beribadat kepada Allah dengan tujuan mencari makan dari manusia.

Manakala Allah mengumpulkan mereka di hari kiamat,
Allah bertanya kepada orang yang hanya mencari makan, “ Apakah tujuanmu beribadat kepadaKu?”
Maka dia menjawab. “Dengan kemuliaan dan ketinggianMu aku beribadat dengan tujuan mencari makan dari manusia.”
Allah berfirman, “Tiada memberi manfaat apa yang telah kumpulkan.” Dia lalu dibawa ke Neraka.

Kemudian Allah bertanya kepada orang yang beribadat kerana riak. “Dengan kemulian dan ketinggianKu, apakah tujuanmu beribadat kepadaKu?”
Dia menjawab, “Dengan kemulian dan ketinggianMu, aku beribadat kerana riak.”
Allah berfirman, “Tiada satupun yang sampai kepadaku.” Maka orang itu dicampakkan ke dalam Neraka.

Kemudian Allah bertanya kepada orang yang beribadat dengan ikhlas.
Dia menjawab, “Dengan kemuliaan dan ketinggianMu, Engkau lebih tahu apa yang aku kehendaki. Aku menghendaki zikir kepadaMu dan mengharap redhaMu.”
Allah berfirman, “Benar hambaku.” Dia pun dihantar ke Syurga.
(Hadis Riwayat Thabrani)

Berdasarkan hadis di atas, pada akhir zaman umat Islam akan terbagi kepada tiga golongan, satu golongan akan masuk Syurga dan dua golongan lagi akan masuk Neraka.

Siapakah golongan ahli Syurga dan siapakah golongan ahli Neraka?

Pertama golongan yang ikhlas beribadah semata-mata kerana Allah adalah golongan ahli Syurga :

Ikhlas selalunya lahir dari hati yang luhur dan mengharapkan redha Allah s.w.t. semata-mata. Inilah akan menjadi kunci kesempurnaan dan kejayaan segala amal. Allah s.w.t. akan menerima perbuatan atau amal yang dilakukan dengan ikhlas.

Firman Allah s.w.t maksudnya : "Sesungguhnya kami menurunkan Al-Quran ini kepadamu wahai Muhammad dengan membawa kebenaran,oleh itu hendaklah engkau menyembah Allah dengan mengikhlaskan segala ibadat kepadaNya"

Ingatlah hak yg wajib dipersembahkan kepada Allah ialah segala ibadat dan amalan yg suci bersih dari segala rupa syirik.

Terdapat lima tanda-tanda amalan seseorang itu ikhlas kepada Allah :

1. Takut mendapat kemasyuran dan pujian daripada masyarakat terhadap amalan-amalannya.

2. Merasai tak cukup dan tak puas menunaikan hak-hak Allah yang diamanahkan kepadanya.

3. Tidak menceritakan pada orang lain amalan-amalan soleh yang dia kerjakan, kerana amalan-amalan itu adalah rahsia dia dengan Allah s.w.t.

4. Dia tak perlukan pujian dan tak mengharapkan pujian orang lain dia merasakan pujian itu lebih baik  diberikan kepada orang lain yang berhak mendapatkannya.

5. Keadaannya sama saja samaada dia menjadi ketua atau orang bawahan. Tidak ada perasaan bermegah-megah dengan jawatan yang dimilikinya. Apa yang dilakukan semata-mata mencari redha Allah.

Cara-cara membentuk hati yang ikhlas;

1-Taat kepada Allah yang menyuruh hamba-hamba-Nya melakukan amal dengan ikhlas.

2-Yakin kepada Allah yang menjanjikan balasan baik kepada orang yang ikhlas.

3-Hanya berharap kurniaan Allah dan keredhaa-Nya

4-Tidak terpengaruh dengan kesenangan atau kemewahan dunia

5-Melakukan amal dengan cara yang betul dan bersungguh-sungguh

6-Sabar dan bijak menghadapi ujian kesusahan dan gangguan

7-Menjauhi perkara2 maksiat penyelewangan,rasuah dan penipu

8-Banyak berzikir,berdoa dan bertawakal kepada Allah.

Kedua golongan menyembah Allah dengan riak adalah golongan ahli Neraka :

Riak ialah penyakit hati yang paling ditakuti Rasulullah s.a.w.  menimpa umatnya kerana ia boleh berlaku dalam pelbagai keadaan, hatta ketika menunaikan solat yang sepatutnya dilakukan dengan ikhlas.

Kerisauan itu dinyatakan Rasulullah s.a.w. dalam sabda bermaksud: "Sesungguhnya yang paling ditakutkan daripada apa yang aku takutkan menimpa kalian adalah asy syirkul ashghar (syirik kecil). Sahabat bertanya: "Apakah dimaksudkan syirik kecil itu? Baginda menjawab: Riak."
(Hadis riwayat Imam Ahmad)

Riak ialah memperlihat atau menyempurnakan ibadat dengan tujuan mendapat pujian serta perhatian orang lain seperti solat dan puasa.

Baginda s.a.w. bersabda yang bermaksud: "Mahukah kalian aku beritahu sesuatu yang lebih aku takutkan daripada Dajal?" Kami katakan: "Tentu". Baginda bersabda maksudnya : "Syirik yang tersembunyi iaitu apabila seseorang mengerjakan solat lalu dia menyempurnakan solatnya kerana melihat seseorang memandangnya."
(Hadis Riwayat Ibnu Majah) 

Riak dianggap Rasulullah s.a.w. sebagai amalan syirik kecil kerana bagi seseorang yang sudah dihinggapi sifat ini ibadahnya tidak lagi ikhlas untuk mendapat keredaan Allah, sebaliknya menempatkan insan lain sebagai tandingan bagi Allah kerana amalnya bertujuan menarik perhatian insan itu.

Justeru, riak bukan sekadar boleh menyebabkan seorang terjebak dalam dosa, ia sebenarnya boleh menyebabkan amalan tidak diterima Allah. Imam Ibnu Taymiyyah berkata: "Sesungguhnya bagi seseorang yang bersikap riak dalam ibadah, bukan saja ibadahnya batal, malah dia turut mendapatkan dosa daripada perbuatannya itu yang dianggap syirik kecil."

Ketiga golongan beribadat kepada Allah dengan tujuan mencari makan dari manusia adalah golongan ahli Neraka :

Golongan ketiga ini adalah golongan yang mencari kepentingan duniawi dan harta dunia. Jika sesuatu amalan itu tidak memperolehi habuan dunia atau kepintingan peribadi maka golongan ini tak akan melakukannya.

Seseorang yang memenuhi poket dengan gaji yang besar tetapi menyembunyikan atau mendiamkan diri dari menegakkan kebenaran sedangkan dia mampu, itu adalah dosa yang amat besar. Allah menyifatkan habuan dunia yang diperolehi itu sekadar memenuhi perut dengan neraka. Firman Allah maksudnya :
 “Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang menyembunyikan apa-apa keterangan Kitab yang telah diturunkan oleh Allah, dan membeli dengannya harga yang sedikit, mereka itu tidak mengisi dalam perut mereka selain daripada api neraka, dan Allah tidak akan berkata-kata kepada mereka pada hari kiamat, dan ia tidak membersihkan mereka (dari dosa), dan mereka pula akan beroleh azab yang perit”.
(Surah al-Baqarah: ayat 174).

Nabi s.a.w bersabda:“Sesiapa yang mempelajari sesuatu ilmu yang sepatutnya dicari keredhaan Allah Azza wa Jalla dengannya, tetapi dia tidak mempelarinya kecuali untuk mendapatkan habuan dunia, maka dia tidak akan mendapat bau syurga pada hari kiamat.
(Riwayat Abu Daud dan Ibn Majah. Al-Nawawi mensahihkannya dalam Riyadh al-Salihin).


Marilah sama-sama kita tingkatkan ilmu dan amal kita. Laksanakanlah semua amal soleh, amal ibadah dan kerja-kerja kebajikan semata-mata ikhlas kerana Allah s.w.t. bukan mencari pujian manusia atau habuan dunia dengan kita mendiamkan kebenaran dihadapan mata kita. Golongan yang buat sesuatu amal kerana riak dan kerana harta dunia (untuk mencari makan) maka tempat duduk golongan ini adalah di Neraka, sedangkan golongan yang ikhlas semata-mata kerana Allah akan menduduki tempat duduknya di Syurga seluas langit dan bumi.

Tomorrow Is Not Promised

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, they serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are and who you want to become.


You never know who these people may be: your neighbor, child, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger who, when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you and at the time they seem painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential strength, will power, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.

Without these small tests, whether they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere, safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life and the successes and downfalls you experience create who you are, and even the bad experiences can be learned from, In fact, they are probably the poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart...

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again...

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen, let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high...

Hold your head up because you have every right too. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself... for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either. You can make of your life anything you wish.

Create your own life and then go out and live in it! "Live Each Day As If It Were Your Last... Tomorrow is Not Promised"

The Builder

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer- contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.



The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.


When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front- door key to the carpenter.


"This is your house," he said, "my gift to you."


What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.


MORAL OF THE STORY:


So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort. Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently.


Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, "Life is a do-it-yourself project."


Who could say it more clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today.

To Love And To Live

Tuesday, November 23, 2010
To love is like playing the piano. First, you must learn to play by the rules. Then, you must forget the rules and play from your heart. As long as we have memories, yesterday remains, as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we have friendship, each day is never a waste.

There are some things that we never want to let go of... people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world. Its the beginning of new life. Sometimes, it is good to be "alone".... but that doesn't make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present "with" someone, it is a matter of being present " to" someone.

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass this way only once!

Heartbreaks will last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go; the challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them. True love doesn't have a happy ending. That's because true love doesn't have an ending. A heart truly in love never loses hope but always believes in the promise of love, no matter how long the time and how far the distance.

We are never given dreams without also being given the power to make them come true. Learning to be alone need not be lonely; it means you're ready to be with someone else. A casual friend will say, "Hi, hello!" A close friend adds, "How are you doing?" But a true friend further asks, "What can I do to help?"

Lots of people will want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. Love has its own time, season and own reasons! You can't ask it to stay, you can only embrace it as it comes and be glad that for a moment in your life it was yours!

We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, "Why did this happen to me?" unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes our way. The recipe of friendship: 1 cup of sharing, 2cups of caring, 1 cup of forgiveness and hugs of tenderness. Mix all these together... to make friends forever.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. To discover new oceans, you should lose sight of the shore. Happiness is like perfume, you can't pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. Friends are like stars. You can't always see them, but you know they are there.

Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them. Have great dreams and dare to live them.

Tiga Amalan yang Membantu Di Alam Barzakh

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. yang bermaksud, "Apabila mati seseorang manusia itu, akan terputus daripadanya segala amalannya kecuali tiga perkara; iaitu sedekah jariah, ilmu yang dimanfaatkan dan anak soleh yang sentiasa mendo'akannya." (Hadis Riwayat Muslim)

Pertama, sedekah jariah :

Termasuk dalam sedekah jariah adalah mewakafkan tanah dan membina rumah anak-anak yatim dan miskin, masjid, sekolah agama dan tahfiz,  hospital, rumah kebajikan, pusat pemulihan dadah dan akhlak, menghadiahkan al-Qur'an dan kitab-kitab agama.

Kedua, ilmu yang dimanfatkan :

Mengajarkan ilmu kepada orang lain. Termasuk juga menulis buku, risalah dan menyebarkan ilmu melalui vedio, internet dan teknologi makluman lain. Nabi s.a.w ada bersabda yang bermaksud, "Sampaikan daripadaku walaupun sepotong ayat." (Riwayat al-Bukhari). Termasuk juga ilmu sains dan teknologi yang mendatangkan banyak manfaat kepada kehidupan manusia.

Ketiga, do'a daripada anak yang soleh :

Anak yang soleh sebenarnya lahir daripada didikan ibu bapanya semasa hidup di dunia. Ibu bapa menghantar ke sekolah diberinya didikan agama, di ajarkannya iman dan akhlak yang mulia. Segala pengorbanan ibu bapa membesarkannya dari aspek fizikal, pemikiran, emosi dan kerohanian. Ibu bapa telah memberikan segala-galanya hingga ia menjadi anak yang soleh.

Untuk membalas jasa baik ibu bapa yang telah meninggal dunia anak yang soleh sentiasa mendo'akan mereka dengan kata-kata, "Ya Allah, ampunilah dosaku dan dosa kedua ibu bapaku, kasihanilah mereka seperti mana mereka mengasihi diriku sewaktu aku kecil dahulu."

Sebagai persiapan untuk bekalan kita untuk bertemu Allah s.w.t. maka perlulah di pertingkatkan amal ibadah, amal soleh dan amal kebaikan dan meninggalkan segala bentuk kejahatan yang membawa kepada dosa.  Kita sediakan dua bekalan iaitu bekalan yang kita akan bawa bersama-sama ketika kematian dan amal kebaikan kita tinggalkan di dunia tetapi sahamnya dapat kita perolehi (tiga perkara seperti hadis di atas).

Personal Perception

Once Luqman (A.S), The Wise said to his son, "Oh son! Do not tie your heart in seeking the pleasure of people. You are not likely to succeed. Do not pay attention to what people say. Instead tell yourself always to seek the pleasure of Allah (SWT)."

Luqman (as), The Wise wanted this lesson to be always remembered and never to be forgotten. He thought of a way. So, he then told his son to ride a donkey and the son obeyed. The father followed behind on foot. They traveled in this way for some distance.

After some distance they came across a group of people. Seeing the son on the donkey, one of them said, "What an impolite and bad boy. The old father is walking on foot. The young son is comfortably riding on the donkey. This is no manner to show respect to one's father."
Father and son heard this. The son came down from the donkey. Luqman (as), The Wise rode on the donkey.

After some distance they came across another group of people. On seeing the father riding the donkey, the elder of the group said, "Oh you old man! This is not the way to bring up a son. You make him walk in the hot sun, while you sit comfortably on the donkey."
Luqman (as), The Wise paid attention to what the people said. He came down from the donkey. Both father and son walked on foot. The donkey walked in front. They went a little further.

People seeing them, said, "How foolish you are? You walk behind a donkey. Why don't you ride it?"

Luqman (as), The Wise and his son once again accepted what the people said. They both rode the donkey and went further. They came across a river. There was a bridge to be crossed. Some people were sitting there. They saw Luqman (as), The Wise and his son riding the donkey. One of them said, "It is very unkind and cruel of you two to ride on the poor donkey. The little animal can hardly take all your burden."

So taking this advice Luqman (as), The Wise and his son dismounted from the donkey. They traveled a little distance further. Looking very lovingly Luqman (as), The Wise said to his son, "You have heard and seen what the people said. It must have assured you, by now, that whatever you do or whichever way you move, one is not able to please the people of the world." You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Luqman (as), The Wise pointed at the flowing river and added, "A person can build a wall across the river. It will stop the flow of the water. But it is not possible to shut the mouth of the people from criticism."

Never Listen With A Predetermined Notion

A teacher teaching Math's to seven-year-old Kazim asked him, "If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?" Within a few seconds Kazim replied confidently, "Four!"

The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three). She was disappointed. "Maybe the child did not listen properly," she thought. She repeated, "Kazim, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"

Kazim had seen the disappointment on his teacher's face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy. This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four..."

The disappointment stayed on the teacher's face. She remembered that Kazim liked strawberries. She thought maybe he doesn't like apples and that is making him loose focus. This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, "If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?"

Seeing the teacher happy, young Kazim calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed. With a hesitating smile young Kazim enquired, "Three?"
The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself. But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"
Promptly Kazim answered, "Four!"

The teacher was aghast. "How Kazim, how?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.
In a voice that was low and hesitating young Kazim replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."

Moral of the Story:

"When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don't think they are wrong. There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion."

You Are The Love Of My Life

Saturday, November 20, 2010


You Are The Love Of My Life
I knew it right from the start
The moment I looked at you
You found a place in my heart

You Are The Love Of My Life
You give me reason to live
You taught me how to be strong
With you is where I belong

No one's ever touched me
Quite the way you touched me
People search a life time
To find what we have

You Are The Love Of My Life
One thing that's good in this life
I'll spend the rest of my days
Just loving you

You Are The Love Of My Life
The heart and sould of my life
Once I was lost and alone
With you at last I am home

You Are The Love Of My Life
You give me reason to live
You give me so much of you
And leave me room to be free

No one's ever touched me
Quite the way you touched me
People search a life time
To find what we have

You Are The Love Of My Life
One thing that's good in this life 
And in a world full of change
One thing I'm sure of

You Are The Love Of My Life
The one thing that makes sense in this world
I'll spend the rest of my days
Just loving you...

You Are The Love Of My Life
And I thank GOD I'm alive
To spend my lifetime with you
You Are The Love Of My Life